Discovering you’re pregnant when you already have one or more children can feel like a whirlwind, especially if it was unplanned. Suddenly, questions flood in: I’m pregnant with kids – how can I take on even more responsibility? What about finances? What about time commitments?
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone. Many women in your shoes have navigated this path. This article explores key things to consider—including support for your family—while acknowledging both challenges and ways to work things out.
Acknowledging the challenge of being pregnant with kids
Being pregnant with children can bring joy mixed with anxiety about stretching yourself thinner. Some women even consider abortion as an option.
It’s okay to feel conflicted or unsure.
For instance, take the story of Rebecca, who said, “Being pregnant when you’ve already got one, it is a lot more tiring… being in full-time college and looking after my little girl as well, it’s a lot more time.” But she persisted even through a difficult pregnancy and eventually celebrated her daughter’s new brother.
Tapping into support: You’re not going it alone
If being pregnant with an existing child or children has you overwhelmed, it’s important to understand you are not alone.
If your relationship with your partner is still ongoing, he may be able to provide support in ways you may not expect, from financial to emotional support.
You can also turn to your “inner circle.” Start with family and friends who might step up in surprising ways, such as agreeing to babysit, meal prepping, or just listening when you need it.
Another support resource comes from the community. Look for public and nonprofit organizations specializing in your specific need. Examples include:
- Pregnancy Resource Centers
- Local food pantries
- State Departments of Human Services
- Information Referral Resources & Services
- County Resource Centers
- Crisis Hotlines
- Church donation centers
- Public Financial Aid Programs
Here at Waterleaf Women’s Center, we have professionals who can discuss your specific situation and help you connect with the right resources.
A Sibling for my current kid(s)
Remember, adding a new baby isn’t just about more diapers—your current child or children stand to benefit. Research shows that siblings can bring lifelong benefits, fostering emotional and social development.
An article at Psychology Today describes that siblings “learn how to manage conflict, express empathy, compete, collaborate, and reconcile.” Positive sibling relationships also tend toward “greater self-esteem and social competence in adulthood.”
A 2018 study observed that children with siblings “had healthier physical activity patterns” and “opportunity for playmate and serving as additional caregivers.” The study theorizes that “childhood obesity may be prevented by minimizing” inactive behaviors. In other words, kids encourage kids to play and move around, which has health benefits.
Taking the next step: Get that Ultrasound
As you weigh your situation, your first empowering move is scheduling an ultrasound. No matter what decision you are considering, the ultrasound is important in determining several things for your health and information:
- The location of your pregnancy. If your pregnancy has implanted anywhere outside the uterus you could have an ectopic pregnancy. In this instance, you would be advised to seek immediate medical attention.
- The gestational age is determined by measuring the dimensions of the pregnancy. This information empowers you to make informed decisions and plan for your health and family.
- The viability of your pregnancy. If a heartbeat cannot be detected, it is possible you may naturally miscarry. In this case, you would be advised to follow up with your physician.
Waterleaf Women’s Center has served thousands of women and mothers for over 16 years. Our medical professionals can provide you with pregnancy confirmation and an ultrasound to help you understand your situation and make an informed decision. Our resource specialists can help connect you with the resources and assistance you need for your specific situation. All our appointments are free and do not require insurance. Call or text us confidentially at 630-360-2256 today. We are here for you!
