I’m Afraid of How My Partner Will React to My Unplanned Pregnancy

Why Are You Afraid?

You may be saying to yourself, “I’m afraid of how my partner will react to my unplanned pregnancy.” Before telling your partner about your pregnancy, an essential step is to evaluate where your fear is coming from. Are you worried that the news will make them anxious or disappointed, or are you fearful for your safety? 

If you are afraid that you might be in danger when your partner hears about your pregnancy, you must establish a safety plan first. 

Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-SAFE for help.

Do not tell your partner about your pregnancy when you are alone. Instead, enlist the help of a trusted support person.

How to Share YOUR PREGNANCY News WHEN YOU’RE AFRAID

If you aren’t afraid of your partner, you will want to share your news with him as soon as possible, but still, take the time to think through your feelings about the pregnancy first. Waiting too long gives your partner less time to process the news for himself and deprives him of the opportunity to support you during this time. 

Here are some tips that might be helpful when planning how to tell your partner that you are pregnant:

• Remain calm when you tell him.
• Allow him the time to weigh his feelings.
• Don’t take it personally if he feels upset.
• Ask a friend, family member, or counselor to help share the news if it helps give you confidence.

Remember that the outcome of your pregnancy is your decision to make. Do not allow your partner to pressure you into a decision that does not make you feel comfortable. 

How Can We Help?

We have a lot to offer you if you are experiencing an unexpected pregnancy. From pregnancy testing and ultrasounds to information about your options, all our services are confidential, judgement-free, and provided at no cost. Contact us or call/text confidentially at 630-360-2256 to let us know how we can help.